Random Rant.

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When the one you want, isn't really the person you can have ?

I've been in this situation for about 6 months with a really good friend but I've always thought we were closer than she does. She's got with like two of my mates, one who's a dick and she's going go for him again I think - or she's just said he's niceand wouldn't mind too. I'm so confused, don't want to sound like a soppy rambler but we spend a lot of time together andthings but she always seems to go for everyone apart from me. In saying that we have had a couple drunken kisses - drunk being the key word.

I'm so confused, best advice ? I'm not looking for the 'stop feeling sorry for yourself stuff', just genuinely don't know what to do. Because if she gets with this guy it will get in the way of our quite strong friendship. Need a nice little resolution

Anyone else been in similar position ? Help a fellow mountaineer

[Mikel el Bastardo]

£30 at Moist Mandys 'spa' will sort you out. Failing that, wear boxing gloves to bed.

[Glyn]

does Mandy give BMC discount Mike?

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Damn what's going on with all the random links ?

In saying that, the benefit of being single is plenty more time available for mountains and you have no-one worrying about you so you can take stupid risks (I'm at that age)

[Mikel el Bastardo]

does Mandy give BMC discount Mike?

I don't know about the BMC, but she bent over backwards when she saw my YHA card.

[Glyn]

probably impressed with your member...

ship

[Chairman Bill]

MM - it's the age old 'boy meets girl, boy think girl is phwoar! girl thinks boy is nice' scenario. Phwoar & nice are not the same thing. I suspect we've all been in a similar situation, are in one, or will be.

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Yup

[Glyn]

there you go - sorted. who needs Jeremy Kyle?

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Anyway mountains

[Diddi]

Tell her how you feel bog off up a mountain for a few days and leave the ball in her court .

[Glyn]

...and hope for a love match?

[Trevor D Gamble]

Lewis, tell her how you feel about her mate, if you don't then you'll go on through life always wondering what would of could have been! I takes real guts to front up and do that but you just gotta go with it. If it helps think of yourself as a little leaf caught up in the flow of a fast mighty river, carrying you no matter what you can do to go and ask her. Get the deed done and dusted, get it out of the way! As she might well be awaiting for you doing it even! Funny creatures women, in my experience! If she says no way and doesn't fancy you as anymore than friendship material, no loss, just put away the hurt pride and walk away; as there is likely a better girl just a'waiting for you just over some other hill out there mate, ok! I speak from much experience of not having had the guts to do these things much! Regret is not a good friend.

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Thanks Trevor

On a side note just found out I'm extending my holiday so I have a week in the grey corries now. Plus I'm getting some new kit

[Glyn]

try the reverse-psychology thing, have a nice cosy chat and tell her there's this girl you really fancy and you'd like her advise on how to approach the aforementioned girl.

you never know, it might just spur her into taking the initiative!

...then again

[Trevor D Gamble]

New kit!!!!! That's good! Did you get the helmet and the tent though?

[Trevor D Gamble]

Glyn, I tried that, and it landed me in the shit once mate! Honestly do not do that! Honesty, up front and brutal, is the clear only and best path to a win there!

[Glyn]

where's your sense of adventure Trevor?

[Trevor D Gamble]

Diddy you beat me to the post there! Whilst I was writing, but on the same wavelength buddy!

[Mikel el Bastardo]

If she knocks you back, ask her mother out. That'll piss her right off.